PODCAST EP:2 “Men vs Women- Primary Income Earners”

*sigh*

If you know anything about me you know that I don't succumb to or agree with typical social standards.

I don't think a woman HAS to have kids to be happy. (Seriously, I'm only 32 stop telling me my "time is running out")

I think if a man wants to wear a dress, more power to him.

Whatever pronoun you want, go for it. It's your choice and that has nothing to do with me.

Which brings to me this... why does a man HAVE to make more money than the woman in the relationship? Why is a man's role as a Provider directly linked to bringing in the most amount of money? Frankly, that sounds a little ridiculous and old school.

While that might be MY opinion... I'm aware that many men still feel that way.

Most Artists I work with end up being the primary income earners. And with that has surfaced issues in their relationships on how their partners are handling no longer being the "provider".

I've had that dynamic in literally all of my relationships. Some men handled it well... others... well... not so well. 😬😅 (Those are stories for another day.)

In this episode of Coach Ani the podcast, you meet Steven, my boyfriend, for the first time!

Steven talks about how he continues to be the provider in the family even though I (let's put it bluntly) make more money.

Since he knows that he can't just buy me something and call that intention, he looks for other ways to take care of me and let me know I'm loved.

That is how he provides value every day.

Some examples:

He LOVES cooking. I hate it. So guess who makes 99% of dinners 😅 When he is going to meal prep his lunches, he makes enough for the both of us. I know whenever I open the fridge, there is ALWAYS going to be something I can eat. (Clearly, I feel loved through my stomach)

Another example: taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, or breaking down boxes in the garage... I never have to ask. He knows those are things that I truly despise doing and he always has them done before I notice.

Even something as simple as seeing I need another shelf in my library and putting it up for me.

Guys, I hope you're seeing... this isn't about doing massive, huge, extravagant things. Taking care of your partner doesn't have to be trips, planes, and expensive clothes and jewelry. This is about the little things that add up every single day.

And to the ladies, be sure that you're showing gratitude. I'll be frank, I'm used to Steven cooking, mowing the lawn, taking out the trash, etc. I can't remember the last time I did any of those things. but I certainly don't take it for granted.

I don't EXPECT him to do any of it. But I love that he does. Acknowledge the effort, time, and intention that is put forth.

He feels appreciated and like a provider. You feel cared for. Everyone feels loved.

Everyone wins.